The Afghan - Connections in Odd Places

Of all the places to begin thinking again about how all things are connected, I started thinking about it when I was crocheting an afghan.  This afghan has been in the process of being created for years now.  However, as with most projects of a creative nature that I start it was not until I was able to assign an owner to the end product that I really began to make some serious progress.  The interesting thing about crocheting of course is that it takes a long time and it gives your mind time to wonder ... I mean focus.  As the afghan's new owner was revealed to me, my dear husband, it also made me think of why it was important to me to finish this project and it also made me think about the eventual owner of the afghan.

 

Every single stitch that you make with the yarn connects the next stitch together.  It isn't until all the yarn is connected that you have a finished product.  I thought that perhaps I saw a link in this thought to a comment my dear husband made as I was being philosophical the other day while crocheting, "Life is like a journey, and the destination is death."  Wow, that seemed so fatalistic for such a positive man.  But, alas it was not.  You see my dear husband, the King of Awesome, is not a fatalist but a realist.  So I began to dissect what this meant when said by a realist or literalistic instead of a fatalist.  The fact is, he is right.  Life is not like all the little craft projects and jobs and other things that we do that need to have a beginning, middle, and end.  Life is so much more.  It is this journey that you go on that you do not want to finish first or finish fastest or even give away to someone else.  Hum?

 

So, it seems that with life too I have to finally claim an owner of mine just like I revealed the owner of the afghan.  You see, until I find a owner for something it seems that I am not able to find the value in it.  You all think this is silly don't you?  Of course you own your own life.  Well, I say nah.  You all do not, as I did not, feel you own or have control over your own life.  If you do not have a purpose for a thing then you do not claim ownership of that thing.  If you do not claim ownership of that thing, then you let is sit, or you forget about it, or you do not value it as you might other things that have owners.  What do you think?

Queen of Connect

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Introduction to the Queen -

Where did the idea for the Queen of Connect come from? It came from the Goddess Jacqueline Gates. Check her out if you have interest at https://www.jacquelinegates.com/. Jacqueline challenges us to give ourselves a title and to define for ourselves a purpose in life. Jacqueline's purpose in life is to leave it a better place. Of course, it would have been really easy to just steal her purpose. It is an admirable purpose. However, I figured that I should really think about it for a minute and see if I could find what my purpose is in life.

Now for those of you that know me, you all now that I am a wife, mother, and I have a job. Of course part of my purpose is to be a good wife, a good mother, and do a good job for my employer. However, there was more behind Jacqueline's question. She was asking about our personal overriding purpose. the purpose that drives us to be good mothers, good wives, and good workers. That question was much bigger, but also much simpler. So, I decided to put some real thought to the whole idea and see if I could really put some words around what I thought my purpose in life is.

That is when the idea of being an "Ambassador of Healthy Connectedness" came to mind. It seems so simple at first glance, but really it was so deep and so complex. As a mother, my job is to help my dear children connect to me, their siblings, and the rest of society in a healthy and safe way. As a wife, my job is to connect with my dear husband and to make our home healthy and feel like home. As a worker, my job is to literally connect different parts of the system and different people together to develop an interconnected product. Of course these are all high level summary descriptions, but there was also the connection to the earth, the connection to god, the connection to family and friends, and the connection to the universe that came to mind.

Once the purpose in my life was really revealed to me, it became simple to give myself a title, and a little fun too! I was not a Goddess, as Ms. Jacqueline describes herself. I was however a Queen. Then if I was a Queen, my dear daughter was a Princess and my son was a Prince and my husband is the King. My four year old daughter really loved being a Princess and yes, I must say that I really don't mind being a Queen either. So, this blog might be all about my new journey into understanding who I am as the Queen. This blog might also fall by the wayside as many of my other ideas have gone by the wayside. However, at the end of the night today I feel good because I announced my royal status to the world and I intend to continue to be queen.

Love Your Queen of Connect,
Ms. Jackie